Should You Let Feminists Tell You How to Raise Your Children?

http://theothermccain.com/2015/02/23/should-you-let-feminists-tell-you-how-to-raise-your-children/

Laura Bates is a childless 28-year-old feminist who bemoans the “gender-based assumptions about girls” in society:

We must protect young girls
from sexism in primary school

. . . How often do we heedlessly shower little girls with platitudes about prettiness and looks, or comment on how “big and strong” their brothers are growing? We hear comments about the sweetness and politeness of daughters, while sons are proudly described as boisterous, instead.

It is always interesting to me when feminists demand that we must emulate their failure. Nobody wants to marry Laura Bates and she has no children of her own, yet she considers herself qualified to tell the rest of us how to raise our children. Like all feminists, she assumes that normal gender roles are incompatible with women’s success or happiness. In order for women to be “equal,” feminists tell us, our society and culture must promote androgyny, so we are condemned for encouraging “sexism” if we praise girls for being pretty or describe boys as boisterous.

“Feminists have declared war on human nature,” and wish to destroy the marriage-based family, which is the basis of human civilization. Therefore, normal parents must be condemned as “sexist” if they try to raise normal children who will be successful in attracting a spouse, maintaining a marriage and raising a family. Normal parents are “sexist” for understanding that normal sex traits — the femininity of women and the masculinity of men — are attractive to normal people. Insofar as we wish our children to be normal and happy, we do encourage them in these “gender-based assumptions,” which are both natural and necessary to success in normal life.

We have met Laura Bates before, when she claimed “Women are being assaulted, abused and murdered in a sea of misogyny.” She is a failed actress, who graduated from elite Cambridge University in 2007 and launched her site Everyday Sexism in 2012. Unhappy women embrace feminism because it tells them that their unhappiness is not their own fault. Instead, feminists believe they are victims of male supremacy — externalizing responsibility by scapegoating men — and they wage war on human nature in order to destroy the system of “patriarchy” that these unhappy women blame for their own misfortunes.

“If you would be loved, love, and be lovable.”
— Benjamin Franklin

This is the problem that feminism can never solve, because feminists refuse to accept responsibility for their own unhappiness. Bitterness and envy are not attractive qualities. Feminists are not loved because they are not lovable. They make their own selfishness the basis of a political movement and, when this produces a negative reaction, they claim that this confirms that their analysis is correct: “Men hate me because I’m a feminist, and therefore more feminism is necessary!”

The circularity of this solipsistic theory never seems apparent to them. Nor do they ever seem to notice that other women succeed and achieve happiness within the “gender-based assumptions” that feminists blame for their own failure and unhappiness. These failed women presume their superiority qualifies them to tell the rest of us how to raise our children, and they want to teach this in schools:

Dreams of Feminist Education
Tadashi Dozono, Ileana Jiménez, Cheyenne Tobias

Two teachers of color, both feminist and queer, will share their dreams for feminist education in schools. Moving from theory to action, Ileana and Tadashi work alongside their students using various feminisms such as women of color feminism, global feminism, trans-feminism and queer theory. Their pedagogical practices incorporate restorative and social justice, inspiring innovative curricula that are intersectional and interdisciplinary. In collaboration with Cheyenne Tobias, feminist artist and Ileana’s former student, Tadashi and Ileana will bring us on a visual journey through two different school contexts via the successes they’ve had and the challenges they face in bringing a feminist vision to their respective classrooms. Calling us to action through their own personal storytelling, Ileana and Tadashi will urge us to consider the role of feminism in schools and the role that schools play in feminism.

Lesbians earn 20% more than heterosexual women in the U.S., whichproves women are oppressed by heteronormative patriarchy!

Of course, if you’re a feminist, everything proves that women are oppressed by heteronormative patriarchy.

 

Sexual Disorientation, Part II

http://theothermccain.com/2015/02/21/sexual-disorientation-part-ii/

 

Caitlin Stasey (@caitlinstasey) is a former child star who has gotten widespread attention for her feminist website Herself.com.

In her own profile at the site, Ms. Stasey described having “vivid dreams about other women” as an adolescent, “masturbating in secret,” saying she has “known I was mostly gay ever since I can remember” and calls herself a lesbian, even though she currently has “a male partner,” another former child star named Lucas Neff.

Given the high-profile problems of so many former child performers — including Britney SpearsLindsay Lohan and Amanda Bynes — it is certainly reasonable to wonder if these psychiatric disorders are actuallycaused by such abnormal childhood experiences of “growing up in the spotlight.” On the other hand, it might just be that we notice these meltdowns more than we do the struggles of other young people. If I had been a teenage celebrity? The tabloids would have had a field day with my adolescent “struggles” (although I don’t think diving headfirst into trouble could be considered “struggling”). A couple of weeks ago, I addressed the problems Ms. Stasey described:

Growing up in a sex-obsessed society seems to be a profoundly frightening experience for many girls nowadays. The decline of marriage and the destruction of moral norms are part of a cultural syndrome that produces what I have called “a sort of social epidemic of bipolar hysteria, in which minds unmoored from cultural tradition constantly shift between utter confusion and radical certainty.”

 

In terms of documenting this cultural syndrome, Ms. Casey’s website has continued (however accidentally) to do interesting work. Her declared purpose is to advance a feminist agenda, but if you have any knowledge of psychology, it’s just as easy to see feminism as part of the problem described by the women profiled at Herself.com. Here are quotes from two recent interviews at the site:

 

“I started masturbating at quite a young age but never really understood what was going on . . . Having issues with mental health, I’ve very much struggled with the importance of emotions and feelings. Having Borderline Personality Disorder often equates you with being ‘bad’ in the eyes of health professionals, and it is most commonly diagnosed in women, so understanding that my feelings are valid is a bit of a challenge. . . . Being sexually fluid and more interested in girls, I didn’t learn anything at all about that, and am still figuring it out.”
— LJ, Australia

“I suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder with Major Depression, suicidality, self harm and a fairly antisocial outlook. . . . My mother caught me masturbating when I was around seven years old . . . but I knew that I wasn’t going to stop, just be more clever about where and when I’d do it! . . . Sex used to literally run my life. I was insatiable, constantly seeking the ultimate in sexual experiences. Much of it was very cerebral in nature, involving role play and complex set ups with bondage and corporal punishment.”
— Laura, Canada

 

What are the odds that, of the first 12 women interviewed by Herself.com, two would be diagnosed with the same mental illness, and that both of them would describe early experiences with masturbation as formative in the development of their sexuality? Is this coincidental or has Caitlin Stasey accidentally stumbled onto a pattern, a psychological syndrome, which might be worth studying from a mental health perspective, if only we could get feminists to stop hectoring us with ideological rants about how women are being victimized by heteronormative patriarchy?

“The personal is political,” feminists have been telling us for decades, but politics is a poor substitute for psychiatric therapy.

UPDATE: Really, you need to read this interview with Caitlin Stasey:

 

In high school, when boys started to sleep with other girls, these girls’ burgeoning sexuality wasn’t an exciting thing to be explored. It was a shameful secret you lie to people about because people would make fun of you. They would verbally abuse you for it. The men you chose to share this thing with would tell all of their friends and then their friends would treat you like sh*t. It became a really toxic environment and I just didn’t like the way it was heading. I wish I’d had the tools by then to equip myself against those insults and arguments. I didn’t know what to do. It just really hurt.
So I became a feminist, really, out of a desire to not feel sh*tty about myself. Also because I’ve been sexually attracted to women for as long as I’ve known. Growing up in a Catholic education system and going to an all-girls Catholic school at one point, I felt like I was sick. Like there was something wrong with me. None of the girls in my circle reflected that back to me. It was always like, if someone came out as a lesbian, they became the object of ridicule. I hated it. . . .
I had no point of reference… nothing I was watching looked like anything I recognized within myself. There were never any young women or young boys falling in love with each other or anything other than heteronormative relationships, really.

 

You can read the whole thing, but what I see is a young woman who grew up extremely self-conscious, fearful of men and normal sexuality, trapped by feelings of shame about her female body. These are very common problems you see manifested in the rhetoric of feminists, but the problems they describe are not actually political. You can’t organize a political movement based on “Boys Were Mean to Me in High School” and expect to be taken seriously. Yet this is what feminists have done, and Ms. Stasey’s effort to stigmatize normal sexuality — because she wasoppressed by the depiction of “heternormative relationships” in media — is exactly what you would expect when crazy people obtain an ideological platform from which to dictate their own agenda to the rest of us.

UPDATE II: Some things are predictable.

https://twitter.com/rsmccain/status/569133217497915392

 

 

Anyone could have predicted this endgame as early as 1970.

‘Queer Youth of Color’

the sexual grooming of children

http://theothermccain.com/2015/02/16/queer-youth-of-color/

 

Verónica Bayetti Flores (@veroconplatanos) “has spent the last years of her life living and breathing reproductive justice. She has led national policy and movement building work on the intersections of immigrants’ rights, health care access, young parenthood, and LGBTQ liberation, and has worked to increase access to contraception and abortion, fought for paid sick leave, and demanded access to safe public space for queer youth of color. In 2008 Verónica obtained her Master’s degree in the Sexuality and Health program at Columbia University’s Mailman School of Public Health.” I’m sure “LGBTQ liberation” keeps her busy, but Verónica Bayetti Flores still finds time to write for Feministing.com:

 

 

For queer youth who know their rights in the face of a system that is killing them,
For women on government assistance who find joy in the news of pregnancy . . .
For those who dare to separate sexual pleasure and reproduction . . .
Your bodies, our bodies, are dangerous.
Your bodies are dangerous to the status quo. Your bodies bust through the armor of the gender binary and the patriarchy. Your bodies f–k up neoliberalism. Your bodies are ending white supremacy and heteropatriarchy. Your bodies are evidence that the colonial project has failed . . .
Your bodies are how the revolution begins.

 

“LGBTQ liberation” and “queer youth of color” is the feminist agenda in 2015. This was brought to my attention on Twitter by someone who thought “heteropatriarchy” was a new word I’d never encountered duringmy research into feminist theory.

 

https://twitter.com/rsmccain/status/567421865883623427/photo/1?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw

 

https://twitter.com/rsmccain/status/567423646277574658/photo/1?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw

 

https://twitter.com/darleenclick/status/566324283920908288/photo/1?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw

 

Can someone explain to me how Verónica Bayetti Flores’s agenda of promoting homosexuality among minority youth is about “ending white supremacy” by beginning a “revolution” against “the colonial project”? Because a common-sense perspective might suppose that encouraging minorities to adopt the depraved perversity of our decadent elite would actually serve the interests of the elite. And if we learned that programs targeting black and Latino youth with this agenda are funded by major foundations with a record of supporting population control efforts aimed at the Third World? Well, I don’t suppose Verónica Bayetti Flores cares who is funding her “LGBTQ liberation” activism, but no honest person should be deceived about the real goals of this feminist agenda.