Marriage: Civilization’s Biggest Mistake

 

http://blog.dilbert.com/post/139295746646/marriage-civilizations-biggest-mistake

Last night I was watching a special on CNN about the United States in the 1960s. A women’s rights activist complained that being home all day with two small kids was mental torture. She was nearly in tears. I totally get that. I love kids, but being around them for more than ten minutes feels like brain death. You can’t think your own thoughts, do what you want to do, or take your eyes off them. And 80% of your interactions can be unpleasant if you are the disciplinarian.

Being a parent on a school night can be torture. The schools load up the kids with hours of homework and hand them off to their parents, tired, restless, and unsatisfied. The workload is beyond what most kids can handle without a struggle. The parents compensate by yelling and threatening their children. The family environment is a cage fight on a good day.

You know what would solve that?

Get rid of marriage.

The only reason the local school system can crap on kids with truckloads of useless homework is because they hand-off the problem to parents. If kids were under one set of rules all day (such as the school’s rules) that wouldn’t happen. The schools would adjust the workload to be reasonable because THEY would have to deal with the fallout, not the poor parents coming home from long days at work.

I’m not suggesting that schools raise kids. I’m only going to make the case that marriage is civilization’s biggest mistake and we’re all too brainwashed to admit the obvious.

For the sake of comparison, imagine a system in which kids are raised by some sort of organized partnership of parents, teachers, and medical professionals. Parents can spend as much quality time as they want with their kids, but mostly for mentoring and social reasons. The jobs of discipline, healthcare, feeding, fitness, and education would be handled by the greater organization.

When a kid is in school, one teacher controls 20-30 kids. That is an efficient system, and the teacher probably doesn’t mind the work. When two kids come home to one parent (often) you have a 2-1 disadvantage for the parent. That’s just bad social design, but again, we’re brainwashed to think it’s the best way.

Do you know why millions of Americans have no healthcare? it’s because of marriage. Marriage creates entities against which you can discriminate. If there were no marriages, all citizens would be equal, and my guess is that healthcare would be universally available. Today, if I can get healthcare for my family, you’re on your own.

Perhaps you believe that in a marriage-free world only the well-off would buy healthcare insurance. But without marriage, there would be enough money for everything you want. Marriage is what is making us poor (compared to my hypothetical alternative of child-raising co-ops.)

Do you know why nearly every parent doesn’t eat right and doesn’t exercise enough? Answer: Marriage. Kids.

Do you know why most adults are self-medicating with alcohol, illegal drugs, and prescription drugs? Answer: Because married life sucks and single life sucks just as much. (Single life sucks because society is organized for marriage.)

Do you know why so many adults can’t get the training they need for a job? Answer: Marriage and kids. Not enough time or money left over.

Now look around at your friends over thirty and ask yourself which ones have financial problems. Is it the divorced ones? Yes, it is. Marriage leads to divorce about half the time, which often leads to emotional and financial ruin.

I grew up in a family with modest means, but my mother insisted that all three kids go to college. I got lucky because my mother showed me a doorway to a better life. But I know people whose parents never mentioned college because they knew they couldn’t pay for it, or they didn’t recognize its value. Why did those kids get screwed? Answer: Marriage. If an organized collective raised kids, all of them would have the same options and information.

My best guess is that 75% of kids are damaged by bad parenting. Here again I am comparing it to some sort of co-op arrangement in which the kids are never the captive victims of a drunken parent, a stupid parent, a violent parent, a mentally disturbed parent, an unreasonable parent, a too-demanding parent, and so on. And in the co-op system, no one is making their son play football because it is fun to watch despite the brain injuries.

How about terrorism? That’s mostly a marriage problem in the Middle East. In this case, the powerful Muslim men marry multiple women and there are no other religion-approved outlets for male sexuality. That creates millions of young male zombies willing to die for a chance to get laid in heaven. Literally. That’s their best option.

Women reading this are doing face-palming and scoffing so hard that spittle is everywhere. But it is a fact of life that men with no options for female attention drift toward thoughts of suicide. Society has taught us, and biology has primed us, to value the mating/reproductive process as our main purpose in life. People who have no purpose look for other options.

Why is a young, male, terrorist’s best option for female attention to kill himself in an act of terror? It’s because the preferred form of marriage in ISIS territory makes that the best available choice for some young people.

You can read a version of this opinion in the New York Times. You’ll find this idea more compelling coming from a more credible messenger.

Yes, there are plenty of “reasons” for terrorism in the 2D world. But in the 3D world of moist robots, most of the problem is because of too many men with too few options that are compatible with their biology. The way they rationalize their terror is through filters of politics, religion, and other ridiculousness. That’s what makes it okay, in their view. But all causes are biological. Science knows we are meat puppets that rationalize our actions after the fact.

How about happiness in general? What does marriage do to that?

Take the example of two single people over 40 going on a date. At least one of them, probably both, has kids at home with a sitter, or maybe out causing mayhem in one way or another. Those two parents are not really in the room with each other if they brought their phones, which they did. Those two are still with the kids, one text message after another. I call this situation dating a cyborg, because the person and the phone are one. How can you fix it?

Get rid of marriage. Marriage caused the family unit and then caused the broken family unit with no support. If the kids had always been part of the co-op system they would have plenty of people to answer their questions while their parents are out having fun.

Climate change? Totally a marriage problem. Marriage causes single family homes with too many cars, long commutes, and about 5X the wastefulness of a better-designed system. The one-kid-per-parent system that marriage creates (on average) can’t compete with one adult monitoring 20 kids.

How much driving does an average family do every day? Lots. And most of it is one parent driving one kid from the family home to where other kids are clustering and back. Those kids should be in the same place all the time. Get rid of marriage and get rid of the driving.

In my view – and I mean this literally, not satirically – marriage is the biggest contributor to mental health problems, crime, poverty, drug abuse, climate change, terrorism, violence, rape, incest, poor health, and ignorance. But you have been brainwashed to not see it.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Note: The tell for cognitive dissonance in the comments and on Twitter will be the oversized anger followed by an insult of the author’s intelligence. People who object for real reasons will mention them. Also look for “Wow” and other dismissive responses without reasons.

Woman admits to false claim of rape and burglary

A woman who told police she was burgled and raped has admitted perverting the course of justice.

Wendy Wilson, 61, claimed two men broke into her home in King’s Lynn, Norfolk, before raping and assaulting her just before Christmas 2013.

Detectives later found she had not reported anything stolen but had tried to claim £6,000 from insurers.

Wilson also admitted fraud by false representation during a Norwich Crown Court hearing on Wednesday.

Norfolk and Suffolk’s major investigation team said it had conducted detailed enquiries in response to the claims.

“However, as forensic, witness and financial enquiries progressed, officers began to question Wilson’s version of events,” a police spokesman said.

“Initially, she had not reported anything stolen or damaged during the incident but was subsequently found to have attempted to claim more than £6,000 from her insurers.”

Wilson of Dodmans Close, King’s Lynn will be sentenced on 8 March.

http://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-norfolk-35550758

 

 

The Look

http://www.dangerandplay.com/2016/02/13/the-look/

I learned how to tell if a man was dead by looking in his eyes. When living in Thailand and Vietnam, you learn how to spot the look.

The look is what an old man gives when a short-haired harpy leads him down the streets of Vietnam. The man glances around to see smiling, feminine women everywhere. He may even see an older man with one of those smiling women.

“What’s taking you so long,” he hears from her shrill voice.

Slowly a realization hits. A man has wasted his life serving an ungrateful nag. He could have had so much more. His soul leaves him.

Men over 40 were lied to. The rest of us have no excuse.

Before the Internet, men didn’t know any better. They did what worked for their parents generation – meet a nice girl who will become a great wife and mom, get a job, work hard.

Men borrowed money for college, married well before they hit their prime, went deep into debt to buy a home to please the Mrs., and allowed an entitled woman to dominate his life. If he was lucky, she wouldn’t divorce him and kidnap his children. What he did was never good enough.

Those of you under 30 do not understand what a gift the Internet is.

Before the web young men had no idea what society had planned for them.

Young men had no idea that they’d spend most of the rest of their lives as dead men.

What is essential “man knowledge”?

The odds are against you. The system wants you to live an unhappy life. It will take years of deprograming yourself of cultural conditioning to live life on your terms. It will then take daily effort to remain grounded.

No one will ever appreciate you. Deal with it. Men are viewed as pack mules. Working your ass off to support your family is simply what you are supposed to do. Meanwhile you’ll be expected to trip over yourself rushing to tell a woman how great she is for simply breathing.

People do not want to be happy, as becoming happy requires you to take action.

Miserable people won’t watch a sunset or volunteer at a soup kitchen, even though those activities are proven to increase happiness. Stressed out people aren’t going to meditate.

People love being “who they are,” as that requires them to take no effort to change. Avoid those people like the plague, as they are diseased of the mind.

90% of men are miserable. 99% of women are miserable.

Finding happy friends as a man will be a constant challenge. Finding a happy woman is even harder.

The best strategy to find quality people is to become one yourself while ruthlessly cutting out toxic people, users, and manipulators.

Ever hour you spend with a moron, unhappy man, or gossip-mongering woman is an hour you’re not spending living your life vision.

Women don’t complain because they want change. They complain because that’s what they like to do.

Relationship books tell you to listen to your woman’s complaints without doing any mansplaining (that is, helping her solve problems). That’s bullshit. Your woman has a mom and friends to gripe to. Do not lower your consciousness by listening to her complain about nonsense. (Better yet, do not allow a woman who complains about nonsense into your life at all.)

Gossip and drama are black holes you will not escape from. If your woman is a gossip or loves drama (95% of women), leave before you get sucked in.

A man’s prime isn’t until his 30s. A woman’s prime is in her mid-20s. Getting married while you’re young to a woman your own age has a 99% chance of causing you to lose your soul.

A ten year age gap is ideal for long-term relationships. Men and women age differently. Men age better.

It’s never too late to leave your crappy life for Thailand. Robin Williams killed himself after his ex-wife destroyed his mind. He could have taken some cash and lived a new life.

Fear is what’s stopping you from living the life you’ve always desired.

Know your worth, increase your standards.

I’m not anti-marriage, anti-kids, or anti-God. If your life vision is to be a Mormon with 14 kids, who am I to say otherwise?

Life is full of magnificent possibilities. I’ve met happily married Muslims, old men who couldn’t imagine ever marrying again and instead choose an expat life, and everyone in between.

I’ve met billionaires who are hen-pecked by unattractive women. Though feared in business, they sheepishly will tell you, “Hold on a second, I have to check in with the boss.”

Why does she deserve you?

You can tell what a man thinks of himself by looking at the women he dates. The more self-respect a man has, the higher standards he demands from women.

Men in the West are brain washed to serve women.

The real question you should be asking is, “Does she deserve me?”

If you settle, you’re dead.

That’s not a theory of mine that I came up with after reading a book.

I’ve seen the look in the eyes of thousands of men.

They are alive…and yet they aren’t.

That’s why Gorilla Mindset emphasizes visualization.

Get a little crazy. How would you live if you could live life however you liked?

Most men are dead, but you are free to live.