Toronto Police’s Muslim Chaplain says marrying 9-year-old girl is permissible in Islam

 

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The Toronto Police Association is raising concerns about the police service’s newest Muslim chaplain Musleh Khan and his views on women and marriage, the Toronto Star reported.

As part of his activity for Pure Matrimony, Musleh Khan held in March 2013 a webinar entitled ‘The Heart of The Home: The Rights And Responsibilities of A Wife’.

In this webinar he referred, among other issues, Khan explained the wife’s duties in her relationship with her husband, including the prohibition to refrain from having conjugal relations whenever her husband desires unless she has “a valid excuse.”

According to Musleh Khan, the husband is the only leader of the family; “the wife should be obedient to her husband at all times” including when he calls her to bed; she should “ask her husband’s permission before leaving the home” and “is obliged to serve her husband.” To read the transcript of Khan’s webinar clickHERE.

Toronto Police Association president Mike McCormack was quoted by the Star as saying that he is receiving emails and calls from members questioning whether the service should be associated with someone who believes women are “second-class citizens.”

According to the Star’s report, “Toronto Police Service spokesperson Meaghan Gray said [that Khan] believes some of his comments have been “taken out of context in the larger lecture in which they were delivered… He does not believe women are second-class citizens. In fact, he frequently lectures to women and focuses on the affects of domestic violence in the community.”

Musleh Khan on Mohammad’s relationship with his 9-year-old wife Aisha

In a lecture during the Islamic Awareness Week at the University of Saskatchewan organized in 2014 by the Muslim Students Association (MSA), Musleh Khan explained how gently and cleverly Mohammad treated his 9-year-old wife Aisha. The following are excerpts from Khan’s speech:

My purpose here for you is to really take you through a journey. Basically, it’s a journey through an individual that is very dear to us.

A person that we love. A person, if he was to walk through that door this very moment, we would go and surround him. And if we could, we would pick up his shoes and carry it for him.

And we would try to replicate everything that he does. So if he sits down, no one, we would never sit down unless we see him do it.

And if he stands up then we would stand up as well. We would follow and mimic his every move. And so I want to take you through the journey of what it’s like to be in the house of this great man, whom we love the prophet Mohammad peace be upon him…

Eventually later on in his life when this wife [Khadija] she passes away, and [Mohammad] gets married again.

He [Mohammad] marries a woman by the name of Aisha, my Allah be pleased with her. Aisha was much younger woman [9-year-old girl].

So there’s a lot of interesting things about her that we learned and we we really get from his whole life story with this one particular wife.

Aisha, she was young [9-year-old girl]. So she didn’t really understand what marriage, what it took for a woman to be in a marriage. She didn’t really understand the maturity or the responsibility of being in a marriage.

So why is that important? Because what this should indicate that one party, so in this case it’s the husband [Mohammad]. The husband got to be somebody that’s very tolerant and he’s got to have wisdom. He’s got to have wisdom and how to speak to a person like this [9-year-old wife]. How to build a relationship with an individual like this[9-year-old wife].

So nobody had better wisdom in being a husband than the Prophet Mohammad peace be upon him.

So imagine now he has this wife [Aisha]. She’s young [married to Mohammad when she was 9 years old].

So one day. He’s riding a horse, and she’s riding a horse, and they’re beside each other, and he is, all of his followers his companions are all ahead of him. So he says to the companions: go ahead, move forward and go ahead. So they do. They go ahead and they leave the Prophet and his wife by themselves. So he tells his wife get off the animal, get off the horse. So she gets off the horse and he gets off the horse too. And he says to her: stand beside me. So when he stands beside her, he says to her: OK, ready, set go. And he starts to race her. Imagine, this is the Prophet of Allah and he’s going to race with his wife. So they’re racing and his wife beats him. She wins the race. So when eventually the prophet stops he is like OK no problem. Let’s get back on the horse and let’s continue.

A few months go by, they’re on the same journey, they’re in the desert and he’s on a horse, she’s on a horse, the companions are there. So the prophet says to the companions: go ahead and leave me and my wife alone. So they do that, and he tells the wife: OK let’s get down again. So they get off the horse a second time. So he looks at his wife and he says: on your marks, get set, go. This time the prophet wins this race.

What happened to his wife is that eventually as the months went by she started to gain some weight, she got a bit slower and she became older and so on. So the prophet tells her: this time I won and you lose.

So basically he wanted to sort of make it even. What’s the wisdom behind a narration like this? Why do we even read something like this when we study him as a prophet. The important wisdom that we get behind narrations like this is to show that this man[Mohammad] had a very playful and humorous side to his personality. That is absolutely crucial and essential for anybody to be a good spouse especially for the husband…

So brothers and sisters and my guests here today, the Prophet, peace be upon him, was not only an example for all of us, but I hope and I pray that all of you sitting here today could see that he [Mohammad] was also an example for all of you.

We love this person [Mohammad]. We love everything about him. We love the way that he was described and how he even smelled. He had, some of the companions describe that the odours that would come from the Prophet peace be upon him were sweeter than the sweetest musk that you could ever find on the face of the earth. His sweat was used as perfume. We believe that these are part of some of the miracles that the Creator gave him, certain attributes about him that separated him from everyone else.

We love this person [Mohammad] and everything about his character and his emotion, his patience… This is why we love the Prophet Mohammad peace be upon him… this great man was that walked the face of this earth…

For my non Muslims friends, thank you for being here this evening, and thank you for not turning on the T.V. to find out who we are, and thank you for not going on an internet website or opening a newspaper, or a magazine to see who the Muslims are.

Thank you for being here amongst Muslims. Thank you for being here amongst women who are proud to wear their scarves, and thank you for being amongst the brothers and sisters who are proud to say that I believe that there is no god worthy of worship but Allahand that the Prophet Mohammad peace be upon him is his servant and final messenger.”

 

 

Musleh Khan says marrying 9-year-old girl is permissible in Islam

In a Q&A session in 2015 at Ummah Nabawiah Mosque in Etobicoke, Ontario, Musleh Khan said that it is permissible in Islam to marry a 9-year-old girl, but the implementation of it has its time and place. The following are excerpts from Khan’s answer:

Question:

“[Aisha] was 9-year-old… she was young and why is this it allowed? “

Musleh Khan:

“OK, you tell me what the age is to get married. What is the age that you should get married? Puberty. What else?

“What’s the age here in Toronto in Canada to get married? What’s the minimum age? 16 with parental consent. Right?

“You actually have to have a guardian to sign a document that allows you to get married at that age. When you’re I believe 18 then you can do it on your own. In some parts of Europe it’s 15, OK. In some parts of Africa it’s even lower than that. Everywhere you go in the world you’re finding different ages.

“So what is the real age to get married if it’s so different everywhere you go? The answer it’s our prophet [Mohammad] peace and blessings be upon [who ruled] at the age of puberty.

“Now pause, because for some people who don’t understand this, they’ve already gotten the heart attack. So let’s just explain ourselves here. The first mistake you make with this issue is don’t compare that time to 2015.

Don’t compare that time to 2015. A 9-10-year-old back then is what most 25 and 30 year olds are now. OK. The maturity level is completely different.

“People in thess days and age mature very slowly. That’s why you have guys that are still living at home. They’re like 35 years older still playing video games. They don’t want to get married, they can’t get a job they can’t do this, they can’t do that.

“But back then 9 years olds, you know, you were mature enough and you could get married. You could have a child.

“But our society is so socially poisoned, then when we hear the figure [9-year-old girl], we jump at the conclusion right away without looking at the circumstance, without looking at the culture and by the way, statistically guess how many 9 year olds got married from the time of the prophet, peace and blessing be upon him, and until today.

Guess how many 9 year olds in the world have been have been married. Less than one percent. It’s literally nothing from all the way to the prophet, peace and blessing be upon him, until now.

“I don’t know anybody who’s done this, and I honestly believe the average Muslim doesn’t even know anybody who’s done this. Why? Because our culture doesn’t allow or know how to accept that practice today. If you try to implement that practice today you’re going to get into a lot of problems.

However, your belief (عقيدة), your belief is, if the prophet, peace and blessing be upon him, did it, you have to believe that it was permissible. It’s permitted in ourSharia [Islamic Law] but it has its time and place. That’s what I to tell non Muslims.

“I don’t get into these theoretical discussions and talk about: well, you know, when he was there, he actually didn’t consummate the marriage until later on, so it’s two different things, when he did that the marriage (نكاح) it was far earlier. I don’t even get into none of that.

“I just start talking about: look, look around you do see anybody doing this stuff? No. It was a different time, a different place, a different culture.

Yes, it’s in our Sharia [Islamic Law], but we don’t shove it down anyone’s throat. We don’t tell people: Hey, make sure, you know, this is also a candidate as well. We don’t do that.

No Islamic culture in the world is doing that. Why? Because the times are different. That’s what I would say to a non-Muslim.

“But certainly I want to just at least say: Don’t deny this. Because some Islamic teachers and speakers have started getting into a lot of doubts (شبهات) about this, a lot of doubts about this. So a lot of them actually deny and reject that this actually ever happened. They say that the prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, never actually married Aisha at that age [9-year-old girl] and they start denying it, and start finding all of these cracks in the wall in certain ahadiths [Islamic narrations attributes to Mohammad’s sayings and deeds] and using them as evidence to support: look, this is not true. This hadith [narration] is still questionable. There’s a problem here, there’s a problem and got into so much doubts (شبهات), so many doubts.

Don’t do that. This religion is very simple, just keep it that way which you have to have wisdomwith this religion. It has its time and place.”

 

 

Twitter Invites Radical Terrorist Black Lives Matter Speaker

 

watch?v=YuHsE82SquQ

 

Lauren Southern of TheRebel.media wonders why Twitter would invite Yusra Khogali, co-founder of Black Lives Matter Toronto, to speak at an event about “online harrassment”

 

Lauren Southern of TheRebel.media: “The co-founders of Black Lives Matter Toronto make quite the dynamic duo… Do they have a dedication to fighting oppression, or to their own self interest?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=awX_9mC8rX4

 

 

 

“Metrosexuality can Stuff it: Beef Consumption as (Heteromasculine) Fortification”

Men eat meat because they feel threatened by metrosexuals

 

Abstract

In this essay I explore the importance of beef consumption in performing a traditional masculinity that defies the supposed effeminization embodied in the image of the metrosexual. Research on perceptions of men and women eating demonstrates cultural visions of eating as a masculine activity. Furthermore, cultural analysis bears out the link between meat consumption and masculine identity. The recent popularization of metrosexual masculinity has challenged the harsh dichotomies between masculine and feminine gender performances. Against such a trend, burger franchise advertising portrays burger consumption as men’s symbolic return to their supposed essence, namely, personal and relational independence, nonfemininity, and virile heterosexuality. In all, I demonstrate the relationship between men and food as productive of a masculinity that perpetuates a male-dominant ideology in juxtaposition to women and metrosexual masculinity.

http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/10462930802514370?journalCode=rtpq20

 

How a regime of rationality make students dismiss feminist course content

Synopsis

This paper explores student resistance to feminist course content in social science courses cross-listed with women’s studies as an example of social reproduction at work. Drawing on both interviews and anonymous student course evaluations, student resistance to feminism is examined from the layered perspectives of faculty, teaching assistants and students in these courses. The author argues that a regime of rationality still operates in the academy and is made evident when feminist course content is met with continual dismissal or disavowal.

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0277539505000178

http://everydayfeminism.com/2016/03/why-rationalism-is-irrational/

 

STEM syllabi is misogynist and antifeminist because they prioritize facts over subjectivity

http://nsuworks.nova.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=2467&context=tqr

A critical thinker considers all available evidence with an open mind and uses appropriate techniques to analyze that evidence and reach a conclusion (Lower level geology).

The main goal is to attain knowledge and comprehension of major concepts and techniques of organic chemistry (Upper level chemistry).

As these examples show, the STEM syllabi explored in this study demonstrated a view of knowledge that was to be acquired by the student, which promotes a view of knowledge as unchanging. This is further reinforced by the use of adverbs to imply certainty such as “actually” and “in fact” which are used in syllabi to identify information as factual and beyond dispute (Biber, 2006a; 2006b). For example, “draw accurate conclusions from scientific data presented in different formats” (Lower level math). Instead of promoting the idea that knowledge is constructed by the student and dynamic, subject to change as it would in a more feminist view of knowledge, the syllabi reinforce the larger male-dominant view of knowledge as one that students acquire and use make the correct decision

 

Gender scholars want to stop us from using gendered words such as she, woman and daughter

http://bbs.sagepub.com/content/2/1/187.abstract

Gendered Language

Psychological Principles, Evolving Practices, and Inclusive Policies

  1. Rebecca S. Bigler1
  2. Campbell Leaper2

  1. 1University of Texas at Austin, USA

  2. 2University of California, Santa Cruz, USA
  1. Rebecca S. Bigler, Department of Psychology, 108 E Dean Keeton STOP A8000, The University of Texas at Austin, Austin, TX 78712, USA. Email: rebeccabigler28@gmail.com

Abstract

The language used to describe concepts influences individuals’ cognition, affect, and behavior. A striking example comes from research on gendered language, or words that denote individuals’ gender (e.g., she, woman, daughter). Gendered language contributes to gender biases by making gender salient, treating gender as a binary category, and causing stereotypic views of gender. In our review, we first summarize some of the major ways that language marks individuals’ gender, focusing on the English language but noting patterns in other languages as well. Second, we describe research on the relation between gendered language, on one hand, and gender-related cognition, affect, and behavior (e.g., gender salience, categorization, stereotyping, and prejudice), on the other hand. Third, we review past and contemporary efforts at changing gendered language, including calls for the use of gender-neutral nouns (e.g., “Good evening, folks” instead of “Good evening, ladies and gentlemen”) and pronouns (e.g., ze instead of he or she). Finally, we highlight the role of values in shaping views of language policies that may mitigate the pervasiveness and consequences of gendered language.

 Here’s the homepage of our self-appointed language police, notice the use of “ze” and “hir

http://liberalarts.utexas.edu/psychology/faculty/profile.php?id=bigler

 

Rebecca S. Bigler is Professor of Psychology and Women’s and Gender Studies at The University of Texas at Austin. Ze received a B.A. from Oberlin College and Ph.D. from The Pennsylvania State University before joining the faculty at UT-Austin in 1991.

Ze studies the causes and consequences of social stereotyping and prejudice among children, with a particular focus on gender and racial attitudes. Ze has worked to develop and test intervention strategies aimed at reducing children’s social stereotyping and intergroup biases. Hir work has appeared in top journals in the field of developmental psychology (Monographs of the Society for Research in Child Development, Developmental Psychology), and has been covered by major media outlets (Newsweek, NBC Dateline). Hir work has been supported by Teaching Tolerance and the National Science Foundation. Ze is currently the Executive Director of the American Council for Coeducational Schooling and is a supporter of gender neutral language.

 

“Womb envy” as the cause of male achievement in recorded history

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0277539511000252

Synopsis

Although misogyny, patriarchy and gender inequity are central concepts of gender studies, the original cause(s) of these symptoms are not as widely explored as the symptoms themselves. Womb envy has been cited as a possible cause. This article provides an attempt at a complete literature review of womb envy (sometimes referred to as parturition envy, vagina envy, uterus envy or even woman envy), structured by theme (manifestations of this concept in, for example, social anthropology, religion and literature), followed by an analysis of the silence surrounding the concept of womb envy. It also examines scholarly input that supports Karen Horney’s suggestion that this envy may be the cause of much of male achievement in recorded history.

 

Gender scholars still can’t figure out why boys tend to be better at sports

Abstract

http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/17430437.2016.1159194

This research insight discusses young people’s construction and display of gender in a mixed-sex floorball group in a Swedish sport school and explores in what ways gendered power relations were exercised. Observations of floorball lessons with 21 students aged 12–16 and interviews with 7 students were analysed through Lorber’s concept of gender as a social institution. Findings suggested that training in a mixed-sex group seemed to actualize a need to dichotomize and construct distinct groups of boys and girls, and a ‘boys are better than girls’ discourse prevailed. This was explained as being a result of their experiences of playing separately in floorball clubs during leisure time. All contributed to the construction of a discourse where boys were superior and girls inferior, although they were striving towards a uniform way to play. Their attitudes and actions indicated that while gender hierarchies were not transcended, they were, to some extent, negotiated.

 

 

 

GE Israel team plays key role in new CT scanner

http://www.timesofisrael.com/ge-israel-team-plays-key-role-in-new-ct-scanner/

 

a new technology that makes CT scans easier and faster and reduces radiation doses by up to 82 percent has finally arrived at an Israeli hospital.

 

This new scan, called Revolution CT, created by GE Healthcare and its engineering team based out of Haifa, was installed for the first time in Israel at Sheba Medical Center, near Tel Aviv.

 

A CT (Computed Tomography) scan is a non-invasive way to check organs, soft tissues, vascular structures and bones using X-rays that create high-resolution images, allowing physicians to look inside the human body. A rotating X-ray source scans the patient’s body as it is moved through the instrument.

Revolution CT, which is equipped with GE’s next generation of low-dose technology, reduces radiation by up to 82 percent but allows the same image quality. The scanner is 50 percent quieter than previous generation CTs, and the device is more spacious for patients. The wide coverage of the scanner allows healthcare providers to scan full organs such as brains, hearts, livers and pancreas in less than a second, reducing the time patients need to hold their breath, GE said in an emailed statement.

Due to its speed, patients may not be required to take medication to slow their heart rate for a diagnostic cardiac exam. Also, the pace of this new technology will allow gathering information about function as well as anatomy in a single exam.

Israeli GE Healthcare engineering team played a key role in the development of Revolution CT. The team created the device and developed the software that collects the data generated during a CT scan and converts it into a clinical image that the physician can read.

CT Revolution has already been already commercialized all around the world, but this is the first time that the machine will be used in Israel.

Laurentian University professor removed for asking students to agree to profane language

 

A Laurentian University professor in Sudbury, Ont. says he has been stopped from teaching a first-year psychology class after asking students to sign off on his use of vulgar language.

Dr. Michael Persinger, a neuroscientist, said he asked students in his introductory psychology course to sign a “Statement of Understanding” during the first lecture. The statement lists a sample of words that might be used during class, and includes the F-word, homophobic slurs and offensive slang for genitalia.

 

“One of my techniques is to expose people to all types of different words,” Persinger told CBC News. “Silly words, complex words, emotional words, profane words. Because they influence how you make decisions and how you think.”

By using words in lectures that cause emotion, Persinger said he can teach students about how that affects the brain’s rational processes.

But in December, two months into the course, Persinger said he was called into the office of the university provost and told he would no longer be teaching the class.

“[I was told my] statement of understanding interfered with the senior administration’s idea of the workplace policies, specifically the respectful workplace policies. When I asked for details, I didn’t get any.”

 

Methods were a ‘tremendous recruitment tool’

Persinger said he has asked students to sign the form for years and never received a complaint. In fact, he said, it encouraged some to sign up.

“It’s also a tremendous recruitment tool. Students enjoy the fact that it says ‘restricted’ on the top. What they like about the class is they can ask any question they want, no matter how politically incorrect,” he said.

 

“And we will discuss it in a rational way, using data more than emotional argument, more than political correctness and more that just social agendas.”

Persinger said he gave students the option to change to a different section of the course if they didn’t like his methods.

Classes continue with new professor

No one from Laurentian University was available for an interview.

In a statement, the school said it’s committed to providing a safe and respectful workplace and learning environment.

“It was recently brought to the Dean’s attention that a Statement of Understanding issued to students by Dr. Persinger was not in compliance with Laurentian University policies,” the statement reads.

“Dr. Persinger was removed from teaching this course pending an investigation,” the statement continues, adding the chair of the psychology department has taken over teaching the year-long course.

 

http://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/sudbury/persinger-psychology-class-1.3389410

Toronto Police’s Muslim Chaplain on wife’s duties to her husband

 

http://en.cijnews.com/?p=52353

Musleh Khan was officially appointed on Wednesday, October 26, 2016, the Muslim Chaplain of The Toronto Police.

Born in Madinah, Saudi Arabia and raised Toronto, Musleh Khan graduated the Islamic University of Madinah where he completed a BA in Islamic Law from the faculty of Da’wah and Usool al-deen. He lectures in the Muslim community on Islamic Law, Islamic identity and marital relationship among other things.

The Muslim chaplaincy role serves as a spiritual guide for the Muslims officers as well as a community consultant.

 

“The amount of stress they deal with every day … they really need some emotional support,” Khan toldCityNews. “Some of these police officers only find comfort in faith. So this is a bonus for them to say, ‘I’m the same faith as you. We can talk.’”

On his role as a community consultant, Musleh Khan said, “If they [Police] ever are confused about certain behaviours or rhetoric thrown out on behalf of Islam, I’d like for them to have someone authentic, that has studied the religion and can say, ‘Hey, I can explain this to you.’”

As part of his activity for Pure Matrimony Sheikh Musleh held in March 2013 a webinar entitled ‘The Heart of The Home: The Rights And Responsibilities of A Wife’. In this webinar he referred, among other issues, to the wife’s duties in her relationship with her husband, including the prohibition to refrain from having conjugal relations whenever her husband desires unless she has “a valid excuse.”

According to Musleh Khan, the husband is the only leader of the family; “the wife should be obedient to her husband at all times” including when he calls her to bed; she should “ask her husband’s permission before leaving the home” and “is obliged to serve her husband.”

 

Here are the relevant slides from Sheikh Musleh’s lecture followed by his comments:

Slides

Duties of the Wife

The wife’s duties towards her husband may be greater than the husband’s duties towards his wife, as Allah says: And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them” [Al-Baqarah 2:228]

Obedience

• The wife should be obedient to her husband at all times as he is her protector and maintainer, and supports her financially

• Women should not see this as a chore, but rather a means of gaining reward, as the Prophet (SAW) said: “Have I not told you about your women in Jannah [heaven]? The loving fertile one if she gets angry, was mistreated, or her husband was angry, she said: ‘here is my hand in yours, I will not sleep until you are pleased with me’ (Assaheehah 287)

• Keep in mind — there is no obedience for the husband in disobedience of Allah

A halal relationship with her husband

• The wife should make herself available to her husband, after marriage has taken place and he has given the mahr [dowry]

• She should not withhold this right from her husband without a valid excuse, e.g. sickness, obligatory fasting etc

• If she refuses without a valid reason then she has committed a major sin

• This is because one of the wisdoms of marriage is to prevent zina [fornication]/loose morals by allowing this relationship

Not admitting anyone husband dislikes

• She should take care to not permit anyone whom her husband dislikes into the marital home

• The Prophet (SAW) said: “Fear Allah concerning women!… You too have rights over them, and that they should not allow anyone to sit on your bedding [i.e., not let them into the house] whom you do not like…Their rights upon you are that you should provide them with food and clothing in a fitting manner.” [Muslim]

Ask her husband permission before leaving the home

• She should take care to seek permission from her husband before going out of the home that he has provided her

• Women are seen as the guardians of their marital home and their husband’s wealth as the Prophet (SAW) said: “The woman is the guardian of her husband’s house and is responsible for it.” (Bukhari)

Serving her husband

She is obliged to serve her husband according to what is reasonable This includes:

• Respecting her husband as the ameer [lord] and main decision-maker of the home

• Maintaining his honour— not speaking ill of him to others

• Keeping his secrets and not divulging them

• Treating him in a good manner with love and kindness Mu’ath Ibn Jabal elevated: “If a woman harms her husband in this life; the maidens will say, do not harm him, may Allah harm you; he is only a guest you, and soon he will leave your company” (Assaheehah 173)

• Beautifying herself for her husband – though the same is also expected of the husband!

• Ibn Abbaas (RA) said: ‘I love to beautify myself for my wife, as love her to beautify herself for me.’

• To not deny him the right to children

Sheikh Musleh’s comments

The second bullet mentions here [that] she should not withhold that right for her husband without a valid excuse, [that] means sickness, obligatory fasting etc.

So here, there is a very classic example during the time of the Prophet, peace be upon him [PBUH], he mentions about his daughter Fatima. Fatima was married to Ali May Allah be pleased with him. So, Ali of course is the son in law of the Prophet [PBUH] and the Prophet [PBUH] even orders her that if you were kneading the flour and your husband calls for you, then you should respond to that call. You should respond. If he wants to be with you, then you should try to do that.”

Even some scholars went as far as saying that even if it doesn’t feel right, or you’re just not in that emotional relationship you know it’s not the right manner, you’re not feeling that at that particular time, still try to make it happen, still try to force yourself even if you have to do that.”

Why? Because this is crucial and even scientists, even doctors, even psychologists, all of them, have proven that this here, this intimacy with your spouse is a crucial crucial ingredient for a successful marriage.”

Sometimes you are not going to feel the way you usually do, but other days it may feel great. The point is that you always want to preserve that intimacy with each other.”

Why do I even mention all of this in this particular manner? Because, brothers and sisters, especially the sisters, I want you to know that intimacy is a part of our religionIntimacy is an act of worship with Allah Almighty. When you are intimate with your spouse you are worshiping Allah at the same moment. That is something that we are very proud of…”

The second bullet mentions here [is] that she should not withhold this right from her husband without a valid excuse.”

Third bullet: if she refuses without a valid reason then she committed a major sin. This is unanimous among scholars of Islam, this is because one of the wisdoms of marriage is to prevent zina [fornication], loose moral by allowing this type of relationship. We need each other to complete one another. That’s the bottom line and especially for a man, the way Allah created him, many many times he needs his wife there more than she might need him. This is just a nature of man, this is just a nature Allah Almighty created us with.”

So sisters it’s part of your act of worship towards Allah that you try to respond to this as best as you can as part of your duties as the wife.”

The status of the Muslim woman: Canadian Islamic perspective (click HERE)

South Korea: Choi Soon Sil scandal latest news

South Korean prosecutors plan to summon former Presidential Secretary An Chong-bum on Wednesday on his alleged connection to the scandal that President Park Geun-hye allowed her old friend Choi Soon-sil to meddle in state affairs, officials said Tuesday.

Senior Presidential Secretary for Policy Coordination An is believed to have played a part in raising funds worth some 80 billion won ($70 million) for Mir Foundation and K-Sports Foundation, which was then illegally channeled to Choi.

Choi, the daughter of Park’s late mentor and cult leader Choi Tae-min, was apprehended on emergency 48-hour detention early morning on a series of suspicions that include illegal access to presidential documents, bribery and the illegal use of public funds. Investigators are expected to request an arrest warrant Wednesday.

http://world.kbs.co.kr/english/news/news_Po.htm?id=Po

 

The presidential office Cheong Wa Dae on Tuesday called for “calm” as a swirling influence-peddling scandal involving President Park Geun-hye’s close confidante continued to grip the country.

Presidential spokesman Jung Youn-kuk made the appeal when asked about yet another allegation that Choi Soon-sil, at the center of the scandal, had entered and left the presidential office Cheong Wa Dae without going through a security check since Park took office in February 2013. Choi is a private citizen with no security clearance.

“(We) hope everyone will keep calm for the sake of the nation until the truth behind various allegations is verified,” Jung told reporters.

 

Asked if Cheong Wa Dae can offer investigators the records of Choi’s past visits to the presidential office, the spokesman pledged to cooperate with the ongoing investigation as long as the disclosure of the records does not violate any security rules.

A local media outlet on the day reported that Choi had frequently visited Cheong Wa Dae, using a vehicle of the presidential office, which was driven by an official.

Such an allegation has continued to surface for several weeks.

During a parliamentary audit last month, former presidential chief of staff Lee Won-jong said, “I have never seen, heard or known (of Choi’s visits to Cheong Wa Dae).”

Last night, Choi was put under emergency detention after being grilled by prosecutors over a host of allegations against her. Choi was summoned a day after she returned home from Europe where she is thought to be hiding for nearly two months.

Choi is suspected of using her decades-long ties to the president to meddle in state affairs, particularly presidential matters such as Park’s wardrobe, public speeches and even the selection of presidential secretaries

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The woman at the centre of the political scandal embroiling President Park Geun-hye has been placed under emergency detention after prosecutors said she was “unstable” and a flight risk.

Choi Soon-sil, who faces allegations of fraud and meddling in state affairs over her decades-long friendship with Park, was questioned for hours on Monday after she returned to the country and handed herself in following mass street protests.

“There is a possibility of Choi trying to destroy evidence as she is denying all the allegations,” a prosecution official told Yonhap news agency, explaining the decision to hold her for 48 hours.

“She has fled overseas in the past, and she doesn’t have a permanent address in this country, making her a flight risk.

“She is also in an extremely unstable psychological state, and it’s possible an unexpected event could occur if she is released.”

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